Parents?

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Parents?
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 4:53pm

Would like people's opinions on this one...

At what point in the relationship should the parents get involved or be told about the relationship?

For those of you who know the situation, I'm just curious if the parents ever really need to know beforehand, before it gets truly serious. Or if it's something that could be kept quiet until people needed to know.

Not saying that I'm going to do this, just curious about the opinions on the question.

 

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Registered: 07-19-2004
In reply to: bklynchik
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 7:08pm
I think it depends on what kind of parents you have. My mum is quite open minded. I talk eveything with her. But, personally I think parents are relatively easier to share the happiness with you than the sadness. But, you know every relationship has the down & up sides. So, I would suggest you to tell them certain things not everything.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: bklynchik
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 9:39pm
Well, see here is the thing...I have been going out with my bf for 5 months now. It really hasn't been very serious, but it now has got to the point where it could start getting a little bit more serious. My mom has met him and was fine with the whole thing. (I must tell you, I am a 22 year old Scandinavian woman and he is a 25 year old Nigerian man, so there is the whole racial issue too) but I have never even mentioned him to my dad (who will not take the relationship with open arms, at least not at first)
So what I am basically doing is waiting to see how serious it gets before "breaking it" to my dad. My mom I know is fine with everything, so I allowed her to meet him several months back, but since I know that meeting my dad will be an issue on its own, I am waiting until it feels like the relationship could potentially get very serious. Before then, I feel that it is not necessary to cause "head aches" for my dad...that's how I see it. I think the same goes for you. It really depends on how your parents take the news.