Passionate hug but no kiss?

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Registered: 06-01-2003
Passionate hug but no kiss?
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Sun, 06-04-2006 - 9:59am

I had two great dates with a guy, both lasting about four hours. We connect so well and he text messaged me right afterward to tell me had a great time after each one. The first one ended with a kiss on the cheek and us hugging each other lightly. The last one was this Friday and as we were saying goodbye, he grabbed me and hugged me so tightly, pressing his entire body against mine which totally shocked me. So I couldn't help kissing him on the cheek and then brushing my lips past his a couple of times for him to get the sign that I want to be kissed. But instead, he just stood there smiling with his lips parted and holding me until I pulled myself away from his grasp to get on my subway. I know we were in public but it wasn't crowded since it was late at night and it wouldn't have hurt to have given me a peck on the lips.

Why would he be apprehensive if he wasn't gun shy about basically copping a feel with me? I'm really big on kissing more than anything else physically so a guy who's not into it might be a deal breaker for me. What do you think is his deal?

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 11:37am
He's whetting your appetite. What his motives are, I don't know. I'd be careful though, just because you don't want your heart trampled on. He sounds experienced. Good luck.
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Registered: 01-18-2004
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 11:43am
Totally agree golightly... he knows what he is doing.
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Registered: 08-13-2004
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 12:23pm
Maybe he was just shy to kiss you in a public place, and also afraid of your reaction to that. I would not think too much about it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 1:28pm

Who says he's "apprehensive"? You've only had 2 dates! He's taking his time...what's wrong with that?

Now, if you had another date or two and he STILL wasn't kissing you, then you might have an issue, but after just 2 dates? No.

Sheri

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Sun, 06-04-2006 - 6:36pm
I just thought the natural order of things is kiss and then feel up...not the other way around. Or maybe I'm mistaken. And no, I'm not expecting major making out on a first or second date but a peck is nothing big in my opinion. Oh well, I guess I will see what happens next time I see him. Thanks.