PERFECT GUY...his gf on her way out..k?
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PERFECT GUY...his gf on her way out..k?
| Wed, 05-12-2004 - 6:13pm |
Long story short, there's this guy that I like and we've been flirting for a while now even though he has a girlfriend. NOW I KNOW ITS WRONG but they've been having some problems anyway, and I know the advice probably will be something to the affect of "wait until they break up" or "if he would do that to his gf blah blah blah" but It's EXTREMEMLY hard for me to find a guy who's Christian, has good morals, isn't completely dumb, is mature, funny, and sensitive... My question is, what should I do about pursuing a relationship there? We've jokingly kid around about going out sometime when we're bored, but I would really like to get to know him better, seriously.... What should I do?

Christian is a belief system..and obviously he has no problem telling you "we're having problems" and then flirting and whatever else.....meaning he'll have no problem doing that "to you" should you two end up together. High unlikely that he'll leave her if he can date you without doing it, though.
Erin
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Sheri
Or maybe you're saying that b/c it's EXTREMELY difficult for you to find a guy with all those things, you're lowering your standards to this guy? What a shame. I feel bad for you. You only think he's so great now b/c he's making you feel good about yourself. But if you felt good about yourself in the first place, you'd demand a higher standard of guy for yourself and you wouldn't be so easily impressed by any guy that comes along and flirts with you. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear and you probably won't listen. But I wanted to try any way b/c I hate seeing people headed straight for a brick wall, that they too could see if they'd only pull off the blinders. Good luck, really.
The same thing has been happening to me for the last 8 months..... only I didn't know he and his gf were having problems until a month ago, when he confided ina friend of mine.
I did everything from go for lunch with him to stop by his desk and talk to him.... but then I just Stopped. I now only talk to him if I bump into him in the hall.... he still talks to me but I don't push for anything. If he breaks up with his gf... I will see what he does, but I will not persue him anymore. he knows I like him - it will be up to him.
Hope that advice helps!!