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performance anxiety early on
| Tue, 11-09-2004 - 12:46pm |
I have a new guy who I am wild about. We have known each other for a few months but just recently tried to take it to the next level. Notice that I said "tried". He was unable to get an erection and kept saying we should take a break. After a day or so, we were able to have mutual oral to conclusion for both but it had to be accompanied by some porn on the TV. He told me that this has happened early on with every woman he has ever been with and evenutally everything falls into place and that it takes him a little while to feel comfortable in a new romance. At the end of our few days together, I once again tried to make an advance but he held onto his pants for dear life, not allowing me to take them off. Of course, I end up feeling there is something wrong with me and I feel like garbage at the moment.
Does anybody have any advice or has anybody experienced the same thing? Is this just a bs excuse on his part and should I move on?
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| Tue, 11-09-2004 - 4:31pm |
Not sure what his problem is but please do not feel like it is *your* problem. You have nothing to "feel like garbage" about. Sounds like you've tried to do whatever you could to help. Whether or not he's telling the truth and everything will fall into place in the romance department (no pun intended) over time, nobody knows. You would have to wait to find out, and that's something only you can decide. But do not take his problem personally. Also, I have read that porn addicts have trouble with real life sexual relationships, so you might try to find out just how much porn he watches when you're not there (although not many will admit to being an addict). Good luck.
