phone call next day after sex?

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Registered: 08-22-2005
phone call next day after sex?
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 10:00pm
Hi, I hope I can get some realistic advice about my situation. Thanks in advance for reading this!
I had sex for the first time yesterday with the guy I am seeing. I have not heard from him today. I was wondering if this is a really bad sign? I have not been in a relationship in a long time, so I don't know if this is really proper or not. I was hoping he would want to call me today. we had sex in the morning yesterday and then we spent an awesome day together and even talked on the phone last night.
What do you all think?
thanks,
dionne
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 10:36pm

I think the fact that he called you last night lets him off the hook...that's close enough to a "next day" call ;-).

Sheri

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 10:58pm

thanks sheri. i guess i need to relax a little!

unfortunately this is going to be a potential new or revived relationship with my Ex OR it will be a "stupid mistake" with my Ex. I was hoping for the revival, but we will see what happns. either way i need to play it cool, but i hope it wasnt just meaningless. i hope he really cares and wants to see each other again as dating properly.

dionne

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 12:09am

oh....that's possibly a horse of a different color. Did the two of you discuss what sleeping together meant before you did?

Sheri

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 12:37am
no we did not discuss it. the night before on our date we did talk about the fact that since the breakup we have dated other ppl. he said that he had been unable to find someone good for him. he said i was the only one he has ever been emotionally connected to. we spoke a little about the "connection" we have, but i dont feel like it was an official-before-sex get-back-together talk. the rest of that night just got more reaffirming of our awesome times together as we had so much fun that night(i actually slept over on the couch b/c of drinking, nothing happened while drunk though). it was the next day/morning which we had sex. he kissed all over me and was being snuggly afterwards. now that i think of it, he did call me after he dropped me off at home like an hour later! he was being all sweet then, too. he gave me an update on a call he got from his parents about something family related.
i went back over to his house a couple hours later to watch a sports event on tv which eh had invited me to a few days earlier. he made me lunch and was being really sweet then too. he didnt want me to leave when i got sleepy, he said to nap at his house and he would wake me up right before it was time for me to go to the baroque ensemble with my friends. so, i did and he woke me up at 5pm on the dot.
the last few dates we've been on he has mentioned how much we have in common giving me a sign that he thinks we may be right for each other, at least to date again.
nevertheless, we didnt actually speak about havng sex before we did it. it just felt right for us at the moment.
i know, this is a horse of a different color..lol..not sure how it will turn out.
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 11:27pm
Just an update... he called me tonight and invited me to a symphony sunday!
i guess i ws just nervous... i dont want to lose him twice. if having sex is going to make things worse between us and not better then i would rather salvage the friendship/not have sex so i dont lose him twice. i want him in my life even if it is just friends.
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 1:53pm

Well a man should call the day after having sex for the first time. IT sounds like you spent the whole day together after having sex - it wasn't slam, wham, thank you m'aam. so that is good.


but when you do hear from him you can say that you were a little hurt, 'cause etiquette you believe says it's kind of expected a guy call the next day after such a landmark moment.


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Registered: 09-27-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 4:29pm

I'm thinking that if he is a good guy and not a player, he would have emailed, called, text messaged you or something the minute he got out of bed this morning.

Good guys always call the next morning.

Matt.