The physical side of dating
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| Thu, 06-29-2006 - 1:33am |
I'm in my late forties and just started dating again after divorce. I am worried about how much physical affection men want on dates. The men I date are all my age or older. I don't want them to think I'm a tramp but also not an ice queen.
I had my first date with one guy on Saturday. It wasn't really a date--a friend sort of fixed us up by asking us both to a party at her house and she asked him to pick me up because my daughter was taking my car to go out with her friends. The guy and I hit it off. Sparks were flying. We had a great time. When he brought me home he tried to kiss me. I pulled back because I had only met him. Did I make a mistake? I want him to call me, but I'm afraid he won't because I wouldn't kiss him.
I have a movie date for Saturday with another guy. It will be our second date. I will kiss him good night, but what else will he expect? I don't want to be necking at the movies like a teenager. I don't want to invite him into my apartment after the date either. Will that seem rude?
What is the formula nowadays? When is it okay to kiss your date? When is it okay to do a little more than kissing? How far does I need to go on the first or second date to show interest?
Mamie

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Pianoguy,
I was asking about what messages I would be giving if I did/didn't kiss a guy. That's all.
Mamie
Mamie...
There's no 'one size fits all' answer to your original question.
All men (including PG) vary in one way or another...especially when a woman chooses to share a little or a lot of affection with us!
So if YOU choose to be liberal or conservative when it comes to whatever share, MIGHT result in a positive reaction from one man? And a negative or 'hesitant' reaction in another?
So set your standards and take your chances!
Pianoguy
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