In a Pickle
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In a Pickle
| Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:29pm |
I was dating a guy for about six weeks who I got mad at over a jar of pickles, of all things. I know it sounds really childish, but I'm used to people ignoring my needs and wants and only doing/getting what THEY want for me, like I was a possession rather than a person. Anyway, my question is, he said his ex-wife and possibly ALL of his ex-girlfriends were on meth-amphetamines. If that's true, what were the odds he wasn't? Plus, he said they physically attacked him, often for no reason at all, and stole from him. He always seemed really nice, calm and rather normal, but kind of coarse and crude. My mother might have described him as a diamond in the rough. I can't understand why I started fuming about such a stupid thing as the wrong pickles, but I had told him specifically what I wanted, after he offered, and it was like he deliberately disregarded my expressed wishes. Do you think it could have been an honest mistake on his part? I'm so used to people who test me about stupid things to see how much I'll tolerate, eventually becoming worse and worse. Plus, that wasn't the first stupid thing he had done. On the flip side, he'd done some nice things that were all his idea. Have I become too picky or could he have been trying to work me into an abusive relationship? To conclude, he left without saying good-bye and I haven't heard from him since.

"To conclude, he left without saying good-bye and I haven't heard from him since"
Good!
let this one go...
i think someone "up there" is doing you a favor and giving you a sign.
take heed and don't buy the "diamond in the rough" type thing... why subject yourself to a diamond in the rough when you can have a real diamond? why go into something thinking he can/must/has to change?
if you see red flags, trust that you're right... trust yourself.