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| Mon, 09-12-2005 - 11:57am |
Hi,
At work I meet this guy who was very nice and friendly with me. He would always ask me questions about me and my life and would always flirt. We worked together for three months. I thought he was interested in me, then he was transferred to work at another department. My nature has always been not to chase guys, guys always initate contact and ask me out. He has been the only guy not to go further. I KNOW when a guy is interested and he showed all the classic signs.
When he left he barely even said good bye to me and I was hurt because I felt like I was begging him for a goodbye. He was talking to this other co-worker will I was standing there waiting to say goodbye, he wouldnt even turned around. I kept staring at him to say goodbye. It only felt right to do so...but afterwards I felt like he felt pressured to say goodbye to me.
When he left he never contacted me again. I work at a big company and never saw him for a couple of months. I knew he was still working at the company because his email was still in the staff directory. So last week, he was transferred back to my department. THe details of this are very wierd but he is back! When I walked in to go to my desk, he was sitting at his and he turned around with this big smile to say hi....I just smiled and kept walking. I did not want to talk to him after he made me feel so low. I just don't know how to act now, I dont want to talk to him ever again but then he will know how much he hurt me. I dont want to me all smiley with him because I also dont want to be a hyprocrite. So can anyone tell me what the best way to act since he didn't even consider me a friend.
Edited 9/12/2005 11:59 am ET ET by gloflo2005
Edited 9/12/2005 12:00 pm ET ET by gloflo2005

Sounds like this guy was already involved and just enjoyed flirting with you if nothing else.
I'd just put him on IGNORE. Let him see how it feels.
Stay polite, keep it short and business like, and that's it. Deal with him if you have to, but only when it relates to work. You don't want to have a full blown cold war going with a colleugue because it is going to keep you distracted from work and that wont be good. Do not flirt with him, or give him a CHANCE to have more than the required time with you. You certainly don't want to be involved with a guy who plays games. You are right in saying that you don't want to be all smiles. I would be the same. I would not want to be "used" for somebody's "timepass" and then forgotten once they leave.