Please Help!!!

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Registered: 06-02-2004
Please Help!!!
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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 11:15pm
I have been dating this guy for going on six months. During these six months we have only been out once,we spend a lot of time together but only back and forth to each other houses and to his friends house.When I ask him about taking me out he tells me his money go to his little girl, so I try not to press the issue because he says we are just friends.

So one day we were talking and he made the comment since you want to go out you may want to get somebody else to take you out because he said he was picking up a second job. So I told him I didn't want to go out with anybody else. So a couple days after this I said I was just going be patient and take things as they come, I decided not to be so available to someone who says we just friends so when this happen. He went crazy, crused me out call me all kind of names because I didn't answer my phone. So I told him he can't get mad we are just friend, so the day he cursed me, I went out with another guy to get something to eat nothing more.

So he called when I was with the other guy I told him I will call him later I was with a friend the cursing started again voicemail after voicemail. To make a long story short this past weekend he call me to tell me he went out with another girl and they had fun, he claims he did this because of what I did, and I ruin our relationship. My question is was I wrong for going out with someone else my purpose was to teach him my world doesn't revolve around him and I didn't appreciate him talking to me any kind of way. Also I asked him.. you said we were just friends why get so angry,he told me he didn't appreciate me being around someone else. Please help I'm just confused I want to be with him but some days he says we are just friends and when I try to distance my self he goes crazy

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Registered: 06-14-2004
In reply to: erica765
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 11:38pm
Regardless of how you feel about him, you probably need to quit seeing him. He said that y'all were just friends and then freaked out when you ate! If you get more seriously involved with him, this relationship could turn violent and put you in danger. Think how he reacted when his friend ate with another man. What will he do when his girlfriend or wife gets hungry??????
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Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: erica765
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 9:44am
I don't know what kind of world you live in, but in my world there are no men who "curse me out." Whether or not it was right of you to go out with another guy is now irrelevant. Your boyfriend has now revealed to you that he is rude, obnoxious, and violent. That's the issue. Dump him and find a decent man.
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Registered: 06-24-2004
In reply to: erica765
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 11:34am
RUN RUN RUN away from this guy as fast as you possibly can. Number one, hes obvioulsy not ready to commit to you. Number 2, hes got a volitile temper...number 3, he doesnt want you to be with him, but you cane be with any one else? Thats bunk. Number 4, my God, would you REALLY want to be with a psycho?? If hes this angry about you going out with someone (you have every right to do what ever you want with someone else)when your not with him, you probably wont 'be allowed' to have any male friends if you were together. my final point is that he is playing games with you, dating someone else to make you jealous. Leave him, and maybe change your phone number.