please help

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Registered: 05-26-2004
please help
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:18am
i just started dating this guy and he's really great and we've been friends for a few years but he is just too sensitive. this is becoming very annoying and i dont know how to handle the situation. i dont know how i should approach him about this or if i can even change that about him.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: misst2006
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:38am

Hello misst!

 
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Registered: 05-26-2004
In reply to: misst2006
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:29pm
First of all, you can NEVER change a person. And why would you want to undertake such a frustrating project?

You dont define what you mean by "very sensitive" but I am assuming that this is a quality that existed within him when you two were just friends. Were you looking the other way or just hoping that it would fade in time? If you arent "OK" with him being this way, please set him free. Its the only fair thing to do...everyone should be with someone where they can really be themselves. Dont you want that for yourself too?

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Registered: 05-29-2004
In reply to: misst2006
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 5:47pm
It doesn't sound like you really want to change him...but you could probably just have a real conversation with him and address everything that you feel about his sensitivity...how it makes you feel (guilty, repressed, stressed) and how you two need to better communicate so that there is more understanding and less things to be taken so seriously.

If it's worth it, go for it.