PLEASE help! Dont know where we stand!?

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Registered: 06-22-2004
PLEASE help! Dont know where we stand!?
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:34am
I met this guy a month ago, we've been casually talking on the phone and through the computer. We met up a few times. We had fun the few times we went out. Although it is obvious that there is an attraction there, but we never talked about "us". We just talk like as if we are just friends, we joke around and just have fun, casual, comfortable conversations.

Anyway, during the past weekend, he came over to my house and we just relaxed in my bed, and watched a movie together. But he wasn't very affectionate towards me. He tried to hold my hand while we were watching a movie but then it was very weak, and eventually he let go. We didn't cuddle or anything. Even when we slept in the bed, he never hugged me, and at one point he even turned his back on me. I can't figure him out because he seemed very excited to see me before he came and even stayed at my house for almost 12 hours, yet when we were together, we acted like we were just friends.

I don't know what I should do. I want to ask him where we stand but I don't want to appear too clingy. But at the same time I want to know whether he likes me or not, and if this is going to go anywhere. If not, then I'd rather not continue anything because I don't want to get just physical with him and end up getting hurt.

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Registered: 06-22-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:40am
Just to add...we have kissed and have gotten physical with each other, but we never slept together....

Even when we are fooling around, he is not very affectionate either. And then there were times when we never even touched each other and just talked all nite, but more like friends' conversation....

bottom line is, I keep getting these mixed signals from him. Sometimes I think he likes me, sometimes I think he only likes me as a friend. And it doesn't seem like he's using me for the physical aspect either, because like I said, there were times when we just sat there and talked without doing anything at all. And when we talk, we have fun conversations....

Anyway, as you can tell, I am awfully confused!

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 07-04-2004 - 12:14pm
Hello carrie_espo!