Please help explain this behavior!
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| Tue, 04-06-2004 - 3:07pm |
Six weeks later, he calls to see how I'm doing. I reminded him of what I had asked and he said he just wanted to check up on me. Well since then (been about a month) we've been talking every day. I've told him I miss him, he's said the same. He's come to my job to visit and come by my house. He beams when he sees me.
But here's where I'm confused... I've asked him to go out for lunch or something similar and he hasn't taken me up on the offer. I asked him what the attraction is, what keeps bringing him back and at first he said he doesn't know but then I pushed and he said he didn't want to talk about it.
My heart would still love to be with him but I don't see it happening. But what I can't understand is why he keeps calling every day if he just wants to be friends? He's not the type to keep constant contact with friends so this behavior is confusing me.
Can anyone help me decipher things? Thanks.

Here's a cut and paste of my answer to this type of question.
And why call every day when he's not an everyday person? Thanks tonnes for your help.
If I were you, I'd tell him that he can call you only when he's ready to say what's been on his mind. You don't have to deal with his wishy-washyness. You deserve better than the lukewarm sentiment he's giving you. You have to make the decision to accept no less, though. And tell him so. I'm not sure which is harder, making that call or living up to it.
I know how you feel. I am going through something similar right now. Be strong. even though it's hard as hell when you still feel something and you're pretty sure he does, too.
Ivy
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Ivy
What you and I both need to do is to tell him that you can't talk to him right now. He should allow you your space. Tell him if you ever meant anything to him he would respect your decision. And that you would call him when you are ready to talk to him.
He obviously has issues being seen in public with you. Maybe he will get seen by someone. Thats what my ex is doing to me. He wants to come see me, to talk to me, But he only wants to sit in my house when he comes over? I dont understand myself.
He is always calling me talkin to me and telling me he will call me back and I don't hear from him till later the next day.
I think I realize what it is that I have to do.... hope you do too! Let us know what happens.
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