Please Help - I Need to Be "Talked Down"
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| Wed, 11-29-2006 - 10:30am |
Hi all,
Ok, over the holiday I met a guy who i've been talking to online who lives in Washington DC. I live in NY. We met and had an unbelieveable date. It was great! We got along really great and there was just tons of chemistry. Here's the nice thing. He was a total gentleman and even though I could tell he wanted to, he didnt even kiss me goodnight. It took all the way to the third date till we actually even kissed. At the end of the date he raved on and on about what a good time he had with me and said he didn’t want the night to end.
We hung out Thursday night, Friday night, Saturday night, and Sunday morning until he left. He switched his time between his mother/family and me. Now, I will say that I was burned a bunch of times by guys, once VERY badly in a 6 year emotionally abusive relationship, which has caused me to have trust issues. Maybe that's why its hard for me to just "enjoy the ride" of the beginnings of a relationship anymore (not saying that that is what this even is yet, i'm just saying). This morning for some stupid reason just because he didn’t call me last night I had a sick feeling that something was wrong, so I wrote him an email telling him that I'm interested in him and I just wanted to know if what happened with us was just a "very temporary" thing, or if he is interested in pursuing something in that way with me. He wrote back and wrote "I would like to take things slow. I'm interested, so if this leads in that direction, it will put a smile on my face :) " Oh, I also asked him if he had a girlfriend (this was like the 5th time I asked him, he said no each time and told me "he's not into multi-tasking" and that "his mother didnt raise him that way"). He didn’t write anything about that, just exactly what I wrote above. I don’t know, I think I'm just being paranoid maybe here because I'm so used to being lied to. Please tell me what you guys think?? I have a tendency of ruining things like this, and I really like this guy and don’t want to ruin it. Do you all think he sounds like he's being straight? Supposedly he lives with a guy roommate… He said he is planning to come back and visit me in 2 weeks probably. How do I keep from going nuts inside worrying all the time and ruining things?? Please, I need some of you to maybe "talk me off the edge" here lol
Thanks
Jacki

He sounds like a nice gentleman. Quit being paranoid and relax. He is going to come visit you in 2 weeks, so let him make the arrangements for that. In a few weeks you can go visit him at his house and see his residential set-up.
Now go work on your hobbies, take a walk around the park and meet a friend for coffee.