Please help im so confused

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2004
Please help im so confused
4
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 6:06pm
hey....I'm 16 and your all gonna laugh and say its not possible for what im about to say but idc im so confused. I love this 18 year old i went out with before and im not gonna explain why because your not gonna understand. But its long distance. I aslo like this guy from down here and hes 17. I want to talk to me my mom about the 18 year old and try to convince her to let him come stay with us for a week cuz he got the money to fly down from OH - RI to stay with me. My mom has neer met him but if i talk to her and make her understand i think shel let him. (you have to know my mom to understand why she would let him). But heres my problem...i dont know who i should be with and how to go about talking to my mom about it. I wanna do it maturly and im very mature for my age but sometimes i can turn stuff into yelling and i dont want to do that. But also i can see the guy from down here and thats important to me but i love the other guy so much so i think it would be worth not seeing him and be with him anyway. I would be able to see him once and a while and stay right down the street from him ect but im so confused. Please e-mail me at Bringiton1277@hotmail.com with some sdvice or if you need some more info and id really appreciate it. Thanks so much.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 07-04-2004 - 1:21pm
Hiya!!! Well, I think you should sit down with her and bring it up calmly and casually. Tell her that he can stay on a couch, or if you possibly could keep him in another room in the house. Assure her that you haven't seen this friend in a long time and you really miss him. DO NOT tell her that you are romantically interested in him yet, cause then she might worry and freak out. You should also try to pick up a few more responsibilities around the house (chores, take siblings out if you have any, etc), but nothing to obvious, to stay on her good side. By the way, I'm 16, and my boyfriend just turned 18. My name is Jessica. Let me know if this helps any, and I hope my advice works.



God Bless,

Jess :-P
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 07-04-2004 - 2:02pm
Hello gorgeous_misture!

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 07-04-2004 - 2:07pm
Hello dorkyj!

Welcome to Ask the Dating Doyenne!!

Actually, telling her mother where he can stay or even that he can stay at their home isn't exactly the best thing to do... Asking and accepting is far more in her best interests.

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 9:41am
Hiya, cl-tgowens :-)

Well, okay, I do agree with you. But I was only trying to tell her some things that might help. To show that she matured, I told her that she SUGGESTED a place for him to stay. I mean, in what harm could it do if she suggested ti her mother that he may sleep on the couch? I betcha that's where her Mom actually WANTED to put him!!! I mean, if you were had an argument with your husband, either he or yourself would be sleeping on the couch, right? So maybe I should've picked better termonlogy for it... I'm sorry for any confusion that I caused you two. I also suggested that she do little but unoticable things around the house to just butter her up a little and to show at least the slightest more maturity, that's all.

God Bless,

Jess :-P