please HELP me

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Registered: 06-30-2006
please HELP me
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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 11:11pm
well the other day i told this guy that i have been "together" with for 6-7 months now that i had feeling for him and I thought we should be more than just friends of coruse he was at work when i left it on his voice mail but I havent talked to him sicne and im really upset about thsi you think maybe he is thinkin or he juse wants NOTHIN to do with me at all = ( please help me
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Sun, 08-20-2006 - 9:13am
Why did you leave such a deep thought on voice mail? This is the kind of thing that is best said face to face. There is nothing for you to do but wait for him to get back to you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-20-2006 - 9:47am

christina043...

3 Brief suggestions from Pianoguy:

1. NEVER leave a voicemail containing the "we've been going together for 7 months" line. Men interpret this as an ultimatum...and WE HATE IT!

2. When you want to express your feelings...tell us when we see you...not by way of "electronics!"

3. When you post any question...please check your spelling and use a few period marks! 5 lines of rambling without any punctuation is a little too much, don't you think?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 4:01pm

That's why it's always better to do this in person rather than a voice mail.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 8:25pm

What do you mean by "together"?

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 8:40pm
Yeah, well, what's done is done. You told him what was in your heart. Now just wait for him to get back to you. He is probably thinking it over and processing it. He knows that if he calls you, he will be faced with questions and expectations, and that will put pressure on him if he is not sure at this point about your and his future together. When you get a chance to talk to him next, don't flood him with questions. You can just ask him if he got your voicemail. Then give him some time to come up with his own statements. The more you pressure, more he will back away, if he does not have those leanings towards you yet. And you have to think that IF at all he is not ready for anything too serious yet, what will be your next step?
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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 11:25pm
Hey guys thanks for all the help but he hsant called me or anything so im not sure what im goin to do I think ill prolly just let h im go i mean i cant force him to love me like me or whatever so i guess its over = (