please help me

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Registered: 12-06-2004
please help me
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 9:25pm
first off i would like to say that i am a male. i have a problem.
i am still fairly young, in fact just a senior in high school. the problem: a girl
she isnt just any girl. this is a girl that i have cared for for several years. She is my best friend. I recently applied to LSU because she wanted to go there and as far as I am concerned i would go to the end of the world for her. i am very interested in her and she is interested in me. I have recently found out that she may go to a different college. She seems to want to go to mcneese so she can be near her grandparents who she loves deeply and wants to help with. I thought that was the most heartfelt thing that she would go to a college so she could be near her grandparents. I fear that i will get into a relationship only to get my heart broken when we graduate. I want to know if there is a chance that if we got into a relationship that it would work out. Also keep in mind that she hasnt necessarily decided to go to another college. I really care for this girl alot. I want her to be happy even if it means that i will be hurt in the long run. This is a girl that i would give the world to and honestly if it means that she has to go to another college, as long as she is happy i guess i am happy or atleast happy for her. Will a 4 hr distance apart be hard to maintain a relationship. Please help. I am a hopeless romantic
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ericdb1705
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:12pm

ericdb1705...

From one guy to another...do you mind if I give it to you straight? This girl (whom you treasure above everything else and would go to the end of the earth for) is in the same situation you're in! In other words...you both are entering college next year. When 2 friends go to college (either the same one or different ones)...CHANGES HAPPEN! You start to discover new things...meet new people...have new adventures!

This DOESN'T mean you can't keep your friendship going. There's always the possibility you both might become "a couple" somewhere down the road? But for now...you need to focus on your education and potential career. And so does the lady.

4-6 years from now, you both may be in a better position to say the words: "I DO?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 12-06-2004
In reply to: ericdb1705
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 4:14pm
Thanks pianoguy, i have felt alot better about the whole thing lately, and have even started realizing that i will always cherish the times i had with her and that even if i end up losing her, atleast she was mine for a little while. and as you say who knows maybe 4-6 yrs and i realized also that the distance between the colleges arent really that far. i really just want to keep atleast a close friendship between us.