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| Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:51pm |
I have been steady with my boyfriend for about 7 months now, and I am an extremely trusting person. Lately I cannot help but to question my intuition and gut feeling that my boyfriend may be cheating on me. He is an extremely outgoing man whom I currently reside with and has many friends, some of which are his ex-girlfriends. His latest ex is in the habit of stopping by unannounced, such as on this past Valentine's Day to show him pictures and give him a rather inappropriate Valentine's Day card. He claims over and over that he simply placates her so not to cause himself any problems, disputes, issues, etc. However, he also claims that he does not attempt to contact her, maintain any kind of friendship, relationship, but that one day she will come to realize that he really does not want anything to do with her and she will eventually stop trying to contact him. The problem is, he often takes his phone (which is equipped with speaker phone on it) into the bathroom with him when taking care of his business and about 3 weeks ago I was almost positive I heard him make a call and the voicemail that picked up was none other than that of his ex I've spoken of. He quickly turned off his phone, but I'm almost sure I caught the first part of her name. I did not confront him, but he could tell something was not quite right with me and issesently kept asking me if anything was wrong, which to me almost seems like an admonission of guilt. When she stopped by on V-Day he spoke to her like they were close friends, looked through her pictures with her, then once inside, told me that she's crazy and how much he despises her. Then, just this morning both of us were sitting by the phone when he decided to play his phone messages. The second message was from her, and it stated that she was calling back to touch base because the previous message HE LEFT HER was unclear, and that she had decided not to be somewhere just in case 'they' (he and friends?) decided to come. Help me!

Well, it seems pretty clear that he's lying to you about his contact with her.