please help me...i dont want to lose him

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Registered: 09-16-2003
please help me...i dont want to lose him
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 4:48am
me and my bf gabe were doing fine for a while. we were happy together, then last weekend he seemed distant with me. sunday nite he didnt want to hang out with me and i found out that he kissed one of my frends. monday he refused to talk to me. his mother sez he's been acting odd lately, not like himself. he still hasnt talked to me, and i have left voicemail after voicemail on his cellphone. my frend dean told me that gabe is one who runs from his problems....i would just like to kno, is it ok for me to wait for him to stop running and come back to me? i think he's running becuz he realized that he did something wrong and he feels guilty for it. i love him, i really do. its only been a month, but i kno that this isnt lust. i feel the soulmate connection with him. hell, he and i even chose a song that is "our song" and he sang to me and stuff.... i love him, and i want him to come back to me. any advice? i forgive him for kissing my frend, cuz it was a peck on the mouth, nothing more.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 1:21pm

Hello lilmissgoth, welcome to the board!


You are young, you have been with him for a month, you are not in a commited relationship, you are insecure, and you have yet to experience true love to even realize what it is.


And, he is behaving this way and you are asking if you should wait... wait for what? Wait for more inconsiderate and disrespective behavior that will have you upset once again? If it were me I wouldn't wait for or want a relationship with someone who is out kissing someone else... I don't share...


You don't want to lose him? You can't lose something that you don't have...


tg



Terry Owens



Edited 4/29/2004 4:23 pm ET ET by cl-tgowens
 
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 3:31pm
Hes kissing your friends, being distant, and not returning your calls? Thats just the type of man I would WANT to lose. HOw old are you?
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Registered: 04-07-2004
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 9:56am
I have to agree with TG on this. Can't lose what you don't have. And you shouldn't think of it as soulmates for Pete's sake!! He obviously isn't thinking of it that way. Any guy can choose a sappy love song, and mean it or not. Sorry to say, I don't think he meant it. Keep looking. (I apologize if I sound a bit harsh)