Please, I need advice!
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Please, I need advice!
| Mon, 07-19-2004 - 4:15pm |
My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 going on 9 months. It hasn't been all that long but it's a start. I've always thought that we have had the best and strongest relationship. For the past couple of months I have been doubting that. We have been having really bad fights just about every day! He really is everything to me and tells me I am to him. One day a couple weeks ago I signed onto his screen name and noticed that he had posted a personal ad at Eroticy.com! I asked him about it and he said he didn't know anything about it. He also created a profile that described him, what he was looking for, and said that he was single. He told me that he had no idea how all of that information got on there because he'd never been to the site. Well obviously...I knew better because only he could know the information on there! Last night I asked him why he had become a member to this website and he told me the supposable truth. He told me it was just to look at pictures and stuff but then I asked him why he had to create a profile saying he was single and looking for something else and he couldn't give me an answer. He just said he didn't know. Then he swore up and down to me, again, that he loved me and would never do anything to hurt and doesn't want to be with anyone else. This is definatly causing some very serious trust issues!! I just don't know what to do or think. Also, a few days before that he went to a concert I was unable to attend and apparently this girl, a friend of his(that I've met) and knows we're together tried to "take their relationship to a different level" and he is telling me that, that is where it stopped and nothing else happened. I'm not sure I can believe that because of the whole Eroticy.com thing. I don't want to leave him because I'm not sure if he "is" telling the truth and I don't want to stay with him because I'm not sure he "isn't" telling the truth. I'm so confused!! Please give any help you can!
DesiRae
DesiRae

Trust, once breached, is really hard to regain. If you want to try, I'd insist on couples counseling and complete honesty and openness from him. For starters, he needs to give you a MUCH better explanation of what he was doing on that site.
Sheri
Sheri