please save me

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Registered: 11-24-2004
please save me
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Wed, 11-24-2004 - 6:38pm

I made a real a** of myself recently.

I had the perfect girlfriend. I was her only and first in everyway. We live in two separate states because we go to school, however we're just about to graduate.

I spent the summer with her, and before i left to return to school we had an argument... and because of my ego (which i seriously regret)i ignored her ever since. She recently told me that a month ago she started seeing another guy and now wants to "explore" feelings she never had before, however she still loves me. Now before summer she pressuring me to take our relationship further and get married (i wasn't too happy about this).

I really don't want to lose her, and she IS the only person i want to be the mother of my children and settle down with.

My question is... what should i do? Give her some time and space to explore new feelings and
meet other/new people. Or DO NOT let go!.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 8:30pm

Hi,

Did you tell her how you feel and how you want her to be the mother of your children? If you didn't tell her anything that would reassure her that there is a future with her, you may well lose her to one of her explorations. It is crucial that you lay your cards on the table, you have nothing to lose at this point. If she loves you as she states (which I have no doubt by the way) then tell her that you do see a future with her. She could very well want to explore because she doesn't think there is any hope with you. Good luck. Lucy