THE PLOT THICKENS - You Guys Were Right
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| Thu, 08-03-2006 - 12:33pm |
So it turns out all of you who thought something was up with this guy were right. I got total complete 100% proof this morning.
We met up last night as I wrote in my last post and put that he wanted to keep it going with me and see only me and "give us a chance". Ok. And he also gave me his password for me to believe everything, so I believed it like a jerk. I feel like a COMPLETE jerk now for buying all of this guys bullsh*t. I went on match this morning and it says "online now" next to his STILL UNHIDDEN profile (after he promised me he would hide it today) - so I remembered yesterday how I "jumped the gun" without even asking first so I gave him the benefit of the doubt and called him. I said "just a question, have you had a chance to get online and do what you said you were gonna do yet?" and he goes "no, sorry I haven't been online yet, I told you I have to take my daughter to the airport and that's where I am now" - now, he does keep his laptop with him in the car, so I believe he was in the car, but I said to him "listen, I just want you to know I saw something. I know you were just on match" so he goes "here's my password, I told you you can go on and hide my profile" so I took the password this time and decided to go on and see just how much of a naïve jerk I've been. Everything has been deleted to nothing (emails, winks, etc). AND it turns out his whole profile was re-done. He re-typed the whole thing to include "everybody has a past so get over it". Why would you do this when you're supposedly "with" someone. Just last night he tells me he's just with me and wanted to try and make a go of us, then he goes back on match to re-do the profile??? At this point, all he knows is I was supposedly going on to his account to hide it. Well, instead all I did after seeing that was re-activate my account. I don’t know what to do now. Should I tell him what I saw or just completely ignore him from here on out??
I feel like such a complete idiot for letting it get to this point.

Hi all,
Another update to the story… apparently this guy was playing games the whole time… He had 2 accounts on match (he's not a member on one, he IS a member on the other). I found out because when I went on like he told me to to hide the account, I saw that he had gone on there this morning and had emailed about 6 or 7 girls saying "hey, liked your profile, we should chat sometime, my email is *****, bye for now, Joe" - I called him back because he said to call him after I went in, and told him what I saw. He fumbled all his words because he knew he'd been caught. He gave me the wrong one to look in. So apparently in his mind, I'd go in, delete one account, be happy, shut up, while he kept the other account that I wouldn't have found out about had this not happened, and talked to other girls. So I said to him, "look, it didn't even have to be this way, you could've just said to me last night when we "made up" that things were going too fast and you wanted to see other people and this never would've happened" (granted I probably would've dumped him already, but that's not the point, point is why lie about it?" - but no, he lied. I said "you didn't have to say you wanted to be with only me and you weren't interested in seeing or talking to anyone else if you were only going to go online the next day, make a new profile and start sending out emails. His response to me on this was "well don’t you think after only a week with all this problematic sh*t happening that something's wrong?" well, you know what? Either break it off, or when you agree to try again and say you only want to be with me, don’t lie about it and go right online and start sending emails to other girls. Then when he realized he was caught and there was nothing else to say he goes "I gotta go, my boss is on the phone, if you ever wanna call me again, fine, if not, it was nice knowing you" and he hung up on me. That was it. This is so upsetting to me. I'm absolutely livid now. I can't believe this guy lied to me so bad and treated me like this. It makes me never want to date again.
what i'm seeing is that you feel you deserve being treated like crap.
it's not true!!!
you have done nothing to deserve a jerk like him.
it's too exhausting, anyway. wouldn't you rather hold out for somebody who is willing to give you what you need?