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| Wed, 10-05-2005 - 1:48pm |
HOW MANY OF YOU WOULD CONT... DATING A GUY THAT YOU HAD BEEN WITH FOR A MONTH IN A HALF IF HE STILL HAD HIS PIC ON MATCH DOT COM AND CHECKS IT - BUT HE DOSEN"T KNOW YOU KNOW ABOUT IT - AND LETS SAY YOU DATED THIS GUY FOR HALF A YEAR PRIOR AND JUST GOT BACK TOGETHER

I can't really comment on the half a year prior..but I am currently dating a guy, for about a month now, and he does still have a Match profile, as do I. I don't LIKE that he checks it, but I stay even keeled by making sure I'm keeping my options open until the time comes to be exclusive (IF the time comes).
If we were to agree to be exclusive, then that would be the time for us to discuss taking down our Match profiles.
Are you and this guy exclusive? In a relationship? If so, stop spying and ask him about it. Don't be confrontational, just ask if he could take it down, since it's bothering you.
Before agreeing to get back together, I would have discussed our expectations about exclusivity, including profiles. Since it sounds like you didn't do so, it's time to bring it up.
Sheri
this sounds like something you should bring up with the guy but at this juncture (it's only been 6 weeks at this point) not in a blaming, accusatory way. And how do you know - are you on match.com as well? Is he on match.com but not an active user - like his profile is just sitting there but he doesn't utilize the service but hasn't yet cancelled the membership? That makes a difference.
Until you agree to see each other exclusively, I think you should assume that any guy you meet online is going to
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