Post breakup....
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Post breakup....
| Wed, 07-07-2004 - 5:04pm |
Hi.
I recently got out of a one year relationship because he is still in love with his ex. Just a breif recap: He was the one who broke up the relationship with his ex because she is much older then he is and he wasn't ready to get married. She was his first true love. We meet very shorty after their brake up. Our relationship never seemed right because I could see him pining for her. Now that I have eventually decided this isn't right for me, I'm very sadden by this. We have grown to become friends and when I left he said that he felt like he was losing his best friend and so did I. He called the day after like nothing have happened and wanted to make plans for that evening. I've asked him not to call because this is very sad for me and I need sometime for myself. I hope he's not being inconciderate, but he's still calling. I haven't pick up his call. What should I do? I miss his friendship. We had a wonderful time together. I know I love him but I can't do this to myself. When can we communicate again?
Thanks for listening...
I recently got out of a one year relationship because he is still in love with his ex. Just a breif recap: He was the one who broke up the relationship with his ex because she is much older then he is and he wasn't ready to get married. She was his first true love. We meet very shorty after their brake up. Our relationship never seemed right because I could see him pining for her. Now that I have eventually decided this isn't right for me, I'm very sadden by this. We have grown to become friends and when I left he said that he felt like he was losing his best friend and so did I. He called the day after like nothing have happened and wanted to make plans for that evening. I've asked him not to call because this is very sad for me and I need sometime for myself. I hope he's not being inconciderate, but he's still calling. I haven't pick up his call. What should I do? I miss his friendship. We had a wonderful time together. I know I love him but I can't do this to myself. When can we communicate again?
Thanks for listening...

Generally, the rule of thumb that it takes half the time you were in the r'ship to get over it is pretty accurate, I've found. Count on it taking about six months before you're ready to re-connect as friends.
Sheri
I absolutely miss him, but I think I need to space myself from him. It's really easy to fall back into the same old thing again....