postponing my wedding
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| Thu, 06-29-2006 - 9:42pm |
Hi, I have been with this guy for about 6 years now. I met him before I went to college and never got to date around and see other guys. We have a wedding date for Aug 5th and I want to postpone it for some other time...I don't know when. I think I have been with him partly for a security blanket, I know that he loves me and really cares about me and he will treat me well and we would have a good life. He is a CPA and works for his dad.
I met this guy at work however, he is REALLY cute and I really like him. He is why I want to postpone the wedding so I can date him. We have a lot in common and we are really attracted to each other. He is in the Air Force and flys a lot, he would be gone soemtimes, but he is what I've been looking for in a guy. I am not attracted to my fiance anymore and all I think about is the other guy I met at work.
I have just spent thousands of dollars on this wedding though and I don't know if I can get the money back or if they would just set back the dates for everything...do you think they would do that?
Everything is starting to get here all at once now and I'm getting nervous about it, I'm not really excited about the wedding or anything so I want to postpone it. What do you all think?

It sounds like you need to CANCEL your wedding, not postphone it!
And the sooner the better. If you lose money, so be it...better than marrying a guy you aren't attracted to. Think about it...would you REALLY want someone to marry you if they weren't attracted to you? So don't do that to him. If you need help finding the courage to do what's right, find a counselor NOW to make a plan to end this in the most graceful way possible.
Sheri
I agree. If you marry this guy w/o being in love with him, there will always be other guys you will feel excited by..It's because you aren't in love with him.
You owe it to yourself to not continue this wedding any further. A client of mine who has been happily married for years almost missed her chance, marrying another man. At the last minute, after invitations were dropped in the mail, that night, she had an epiphany and decided not to go through with it. She called the PO and told them not to deliver those invitations.
Depending on who spent the money, make a payment plan to pay them back, but first, speak to your fiancee ASAP.
Good Luck!
GB
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