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| Thu, 01-29-2004 - 8:54am |
If your BF told you that he would not get married (to any woman) unless the woman signed a pre-nupital agreement, what would your reaction be?
| Thu, 01-29-2004 - 8:54am |
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Granted, I think I will be in the minority on this.
That said, the one situation I can think of where a pre-nup does make sense is if one or both of you have children or an elderly or sickly relative who is dependent on you. I think it is fair to want to make provisions for one's children/dependents in that situation.
And on the reverse side, if *I* were so well off that I needed to be worried about potentially losing a substantial part of it, I suppose I would want to cover my bases with a pre-nup. Because no matter how much you love one another or plan to remain together, there are no guarantees. Things change in life and you have no control over the future.
that combining of our initial property into a fully 100% SHARED life is what allows us to make choices that are best for the marriage & not to have to think about self-preservation now that we're united in marriage.
we're thrilled that we don't have a marriage where anything is kept in single mode. Because we're not single & that's how we choose to live- like we're not single. not in any way at all.
also, it's not necessarily as simple as 'what you came in with.'
your life situation changes over time- & especially on the basis of your marriage- if you have a caring, sharing marriage.
my DH is my life partner. That's a covenant we made & we're committed to keeping.
we INTENTIONALLY structured our marriage so that what we came in with is owned jointly.
just because we choose a fully united marriage.
i respect other people's choices - but it was definitely not for us.
Edited 2/1/2004 9:27:37 AM ET by lovin_hockey17
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