Premature Sister-in-law?

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Registered: 04-24-2007
Premature Sister-in-law?
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 2:44am

Hi

I have a friend of mine who is adamant that I must become her sister in law! She came to me a few months aback and told me about her brother. She told me that he is a cool person and fun to be around. I told her that I needed time to make a decision and to meet him in person and make up my own mind about him.

Unknowing to me and to him as well, she got him to stop by at her apartment and asked me to come over. She then revealed that she wanted me to meet her brother. I was a little upset because I was doing some washing next door and wanted to make a good first impression. I just decided to go with the flow until the end of "the meeting".

We met each other and we were both shy and reserved for the while because of what his sister had done. At the end of the meeting I told her that if she wanted anything to happen romantically she needs to step aback a little and let us make the decision.

Now I took my time and after a few calls and meetings I realise that this guy really is a cool person. We have a lot of things in common and I would like to get to know him better. The thing is I started to call him and to text him (not like a pest but within a few days or weeks of each other). He did respond favourably - Telling me that I have a pretty smile and other compliments. He also responded to the text messages immediately.

The problem is how do I ask him out without seeming desperate? (Because he seems to be a little shy). And how do I go about getting to know him better with out his sister's influence?

Nina

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 1:25pm
The sister in law has got to go if you two stand a chance. He hasn't asked you out yet? If you feel comfortable asking him out to lunch, make is casual, like "hey, I'm hungry are you? let's go here." If he says no, or I already ate , then it's like "okay, cool. Call me if you ever want to have lunch sometime." But if you have to do all the work it won't work out.
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 11:19pm

Since you text frequently, send him one text where you ask him to meet you for lunch, dinner, coffee, etc. See what his reaction is.

Regarding the "sister in law", I wouldn't worry about her. Enjoy dating the guy and that's it. If she asks then tell her that every thing is going well. That's all she needs to know.