Probably overreacting....

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Probably overreacting....
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Sat, 02-03-2007 - 11:28pm
Hey y'all!
I'm probably overreacting or thinking too much, but here goes.
I had a third date with a guy I've been seeing for about a month. He came over for dinner (I kind of messed up dinner, by the way...he appreciated it, though). Well, the part that I'm probably over thinking: As he was leaving, he leaned in to kiss me, and it was a nice kiss...our first...it was sensual and sweet, no tongue or open mouth. I appreciated that he didn't try to shove his tongue down my throat. Well anyway, he says to me, "you're closing your eyes..." and I said, without thinking..."I ALWAYS close my eyes!!!" I used the word ALWAYS, like I just go around kissing a lot of guys. I just meant that I close my eyes when I kiss, not that I ALWAYS kiss guys. He's the first guy I've kissed in nearly three months. I'm sure he knows that he's not the first guy I've kissed (I'm 27), so it's not like I'm loose because I've kissed a guy before. It just came out wrong, I guess. He didn't even seem to notice what I'd said, or he pretended that he didn't. Anywho, am I overreacting?? Would that statement turn a guy off??


Edited 2/3/2007 11:30 pm ET by mali2579
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 11:37pm

Oh, girl, you are SO overthinking this!!! Seriously!!!

Don't even give it another thought!

Sheri

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 12:22am

<......"I ALWAYS close my eyes!!!" ...>

Why would you think that a guy would be turned off by this statement? You were kissing so you closed your eyes and you said that you always close your eyes while kissing. It's possible that while kissing he looked at you and noticed that you closed your eyes. It's normal to close your eyes when kissing. There are poeple who don't close their eyes and that's normal too. Don't worry too much about his reaction or lack of.

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 9:55am

Thank you!
I figured I was overthinking it. One of my bad habits...I guess. I overanalyze EVERYTHING....now, I'm wondering if it was even right to kiss him so soon....oh boy!

Thanks again!

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 11:06am
Instead of you worrying about what he thinks about you, why not think about why that is important to him - to have open eyes when kissing? Or maybe he didn't mean much by it either and just made small talk.
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Sun, 02-04-2007 - 11:52am

You are SO overthinking this. He likely "didn't seem to notice" because he didnt! Even if you kissed 100 guys last week, who the heck cares. I am sure he didn't take it that you were a hussy because who would??

I personally find it WAY more odd that he doesn't close his eyes AND commented on the fact that you do! The majority of people close their eyes when kissing. Some people don't and that's OK, but to comment that you do is kinda funny! He was probably just nervous tho since it was your first kiss.

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