pulling back?
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pulling back?
| Tue, 04-27-2004 - 9:49am |
I've been dating an older man (he's late 40's, I'm mid-30's) for about 8 months. We've spent almost every day together, and nights a little more than 1/2 the time. We both have children and are recently divorced, so much of our time together is doing typical day-to-day activities - dinner, laundry, etc. - we act like we live together but we don't. (the only time we don't sleep in the same place is the 4 school days, every other week, that my daughter is with me). Lately, I feel like he's been taking things for granted, or getting bored with the relationship. Due to circumstances in my life, it would be easy for me to pull back a little and spend less time with him. My question is: Is pulling back, being busy in other things, likely to get him to miss me and appreciate our time together more? I'm also concerned that he'll worry that I'm losing interest if I do this, because it will be a definite, noticable switch. I don't want him to think I want to break-up.
Thanks for your advice.
Thanks for your advice.

be less available. not games, but less available. start making plans with your friends or your kids even and when he calls to make dates. this way, your schedule will be a little more full of just you and not you/him.
it will make you seem more attractive and if he misses you that will make him want to pursue you more ... also stop him from taking you for granted
if you feel bored and get the feeling hes bored. maybe suggest a fun outing for just you two. sometimes men get really tired of planning everything, so once in awhile its nice for the woman to come jup wtih things she likes. just giving him a nudge...
good luck.