Pulls away every 2 wks~Whats going on?
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| Wed, 12-27-2006 - 4:52pm |
We had a beautiful Christmas he bought me 130 dollars worth of gift
certificates and my teen boys 15 dollars each of gift cert. I planned on going
up to his place for New years eve.
Then yesterday he obiviously didn't like the fact that i was questioning again
about him being on *****.com and he told me that he just looks at what is sent
to him of matches and one of his friends wanted him to check out a few he was
interested in and wanted his opinion on it...whatever!!! We are both 50 yr old
we have known each other about 10 months but just started to date about 3 months
ago. We talk on the phone twice a day and email each other. He raises his 16 yr
old and has his parents live right behind him in a guest house. (oh by theway i
have already met both his son and parents)
He tends to back off every 2 weeks. i usually will call him and ask him what is
going on and then everything is fine again, but i am not calling again this
time. What is going on here? Please Help..
This is his email to me yesterday. I put my answers between the arrows.
I understand how you feel. Allow me to express my feelings. I have been thinking
a lot about this coming weekend and I haven't been very comfortable with it.
First of all, because my son will be home. I think that it would be best not to
have you up when he is because I don't want him to think I take sex lightly.
>>>>Why on earth would your son think you take sex lighty just because i'm
coming up and going out for New Years Eve and staying in the guest bedroom.
Haven't you ever had guests.<<<<
Secondly, because I think the feelings would be compounded by my parents knowing
you were spending the weekend when my son was home.>>>>Don't your folks think you
need a life? there is nothing wrong with someone staying in the guest bedroom.
Your 50 yrs old and its your house. you need to stop living through your
parents, becuase you will kick your self down the road. <<<<
I also don't want you to feel strange if I check onto match. >>>>what woman
wouldn't, when your having sex with her,but that can be a two way street. <<<<
Because of all of these reasons I should step back and evaluate things.
>>>>thats fine<<<<
I hope you can understand my situation and feelings. >>>>no, i really don't,
because this is the third time we have gone through this. When things aren't
said just right your ready to sink the ship.<<<<
The life of Everyone loves Raymond is not easy.>>>>Only you make it hard.<<<<
I hope I did not mess up your plans too much. >>>>Not at all, i have back up
plans if i want to go.<<<<
>>>>Hope you have a wonderful New Years. <<<<

I would just plan your NYE without him. He's 50 years old. If he still has parental attachment issues, it's doubtful that will change anytime soon. Don't try to fix him. Look at him for who and what he is and make your decisions based on that.
Keep us posted.
I would move on, when someone tells you who they are, you should believe them. This guy is obviously telling you that you are not a high priority and that he is not really interested in the same things you are.
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