Pursue, be patient, move on?
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Pursue, be patient, move on?
| Sun, 04-08-2007 - 1:34am |
Ok. So here's the short version. Met a guy online. We talked on the phone for about a week, several hours each night. seemed to get along famously. decided to go on a date. went on our date - it was wonderful. When I said goodbye, he told me he had an excellent time, and I said i did too. he gave me a kiss on the cheek. Told me to call to make sure I got home safe. I did - told him I'd call him tomorrow once i got to my parents (for easter). He said he'd like that very much. And I didn't really hear from him on my day of travel. Got two text messages that were very short. He called me (the following day) and left a message on my voice mail this morning saying that he had heard from a girl he had gone out with on a first date several weeks ago, went out with her and has decided to see where it goes. What I really want to do is email him and say hey I had a great time blah blah blah, I did send him a text saying "best of luck, take care". I have not had such a wonderful date in ages. And hell I was under the impression he had a good time too, and was interested. So would there be any point in me emailing him? I have conflicting emotions on this. I kinda feel betrayed by his duplicity (granted he was honest about it on the message) and am hurt by feeling that he was window shopping and I clearly wasnt what he was interested in. On the other hand, i did meet him online and this is the wild wonderful world of ppl sometimes dating more than one person, and there's always the possibility that several dates down the road they won't work out. My situation is this, I don't date often, and I have never really felt so wonderful after a date. But when i was with him, it was all fluttery stomach, etc. So should I send a polite email saying I had a great time, just to let him know that I wouldn't mind seeing him again without blatantly saying it, or should i send him something more up front saying I was bummed. Or should I send him nothing. I am kind of an odd duck, so to speak, so finding someone who was more than ok with that was encouraging.

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You've defined "actively dating" as people who use dates to get free dinners. So only people who are users are able to not get their hopes up after one date? I'm not an "active dater" by your definition yet somehow I'm able to do that.
Sheri
Kerry...
Pianoguy is convinced that "casual dating" is safer for those who fear commitment.
When you're a "free agent" and not committed to a particular individual...it's easier to discard that person...instead of experiencing an UGLY BREAKUP!
And it's a lot easier to "bow out of a relationship" via a snail or email...as opposed to a face-to-face confrontation.
I'm NOT endorsing this practice, but have found that most people don't have the guts to tell a former partner that he (or she) is no longer desirable.
Just my 2 cents...
Pianoguy
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