Pursue, be patient, move on?
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Pursue, be patient, move on?
| Sun, 04-08-2007 - 1:34am |
Ok. So here's the short version. Met a guy online. We talked on the phone for about a week, several hours each night. seemed to get along famously. decided to go on a date. went on our date - it was wonderful. When I said goodbye, he told me he had an excellent time, and I said i did too. he gave me a kiss on the cheek. Told me to call to make sure I got home safe. I did - told him I'd call him tomorrow once i got to my parents (for easter). He said he'd like that very much. And I didn't really hear from him on my day of travel. Got two text messages that were very short. He called me (the following day) and left a message on my voice mail this morning saying that he had heard from a girl he had gone out with on a first date several weeks ago, went out with her and has decided to see where it goes. What I really want to do is email him and say hey I had a great time blah blah blah, I did send him a text saying "best of luck, take care". I have not had such a wonderful date in ages. And hell I was under the impression he had a good time too, and was interested. So would there be any point in me emailing him? I have conflicting emotions on this. I kinda feel betrayed by his duplicity (granted he was honest about it on the message) and am hurt by feeling that he was window shopping and I clearly wasnt what he was interested in. On the other hand, i did meet him online and this is the wild wonderful world of ppl sometimes dating more than one person, and there's always the possibility that several dates down the road they won't work out. My situation is this, I don't date often, and I have never really felt so wonderful after a date. But when i was with him, it was all fluttery stomach, etc. So should I send a polite email saying I had a great time, just to let him know that I wouldn't mind seeing him again without blatantly saying it, or should i send him something more up front saying I was bummed. Or should I send him nothing. I am kind of an odd duck, so to speak, so finding someone who was more than ok with that was encouraging.

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That's what I am chalking it up to - that there are people out there who I can have a good, wonderful time with and its not just a figment of my imagination. Also I am making a point of dating more actively...as in going on them. As in actually doing it more than once in a blue moon.
I find the whole conversation very interesting regarding the semantics, however frankly it doesn't really apply to me in that what works in my head works for me, and it may not work for others. It is what it is. I am hardest on myself - and my frustration at being dropped was moreso my over-reacting to a situation that I had thought was going a different way, my aforementioned frustration just has to do with the fears of lonliness, etc. that ppl have and given that i hadn't really dated in ages, in my mind's eye at that point, i was putting a lot more into it than was rational. But its over and done with. He had the good graces to call. He clearly also lacks tact because he told me he is interested in pursuing things with someone else.
But damn these internet dating sites, and letting you see just who looks at your profile. Really is it necessary for me to see that he has been looking at my profile (he did yesterday) and moreso than anything I am surprisingly annoyed by it. Oh well. I digress. Thanks for everything everyone - its been good conversation and you guys have helped me work through things, which is always nice. Thanks a million!
Katie
See response #2 on this thread...Kerry...
PG summed it up in 4 words.
Pianoguy
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