To pursue or not to pursue...?

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Registered: 04-03-2006
To pursue or not to pursue...?
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Mon, 04-03-2006 - 12:15pm

I am interested in one of my fellow graduate students and have received mixed messages from him recently. We don't know each other very well yet and we have one class together. A couple of weeks ago we had a chance to hang out (in a group) and he acted very flirtatious, asked me for my phone number, and said we should get together soon. Unfortunately, he didn't call when he said he would, but later apologized and said he was very busy.

A week later, he repeated the same thing: "What are you doing this weekend? I'll give you a call..." but nothing.

I am really attracted to this person and know that he is in fact extremely busy with his PhD program and work on the side. Would it be appropriate or advisable for me to shoot him another email suggesting that we hang out, or is the ball in his court at this point? The "crush" can be extremely distracting at times. He has my phone number and email address if he wants to get in touch. He did/does seem genuinely interested in me when we're talking in person, but I feel like he's overwhelmed with his work and isn't making time for dating. I do know that he's single, and I'd really like to get to know him better.

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:59pm
Asyou said , he's not making time for dating. He's making his priorities clear. I'd let it go until he makes an effort to make time for you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:02pm

Let it go. The ball is definitely in his court.

Sheri