Puzzled about kissing

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Registered: 03-30-2004
Puzzled about kissing
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 12:34pm
I have been seeing someone for the past 2 months. Most of our time we see each other in the morning going to work, leaving work and on the phone. We finally got to spend some one-on-one time with each other this weekend. What puzzles me is that he doesn't want to kiss me. He will kiss me on the cheek and peck me on the lips. I don't know what to think or do with this. I have never been with a man who didn't enjoy kissing. What are your thoughts?

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Registered: 10-11-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 1:29pm
Are you sure that you guyz are what you consider dating? Maybe in his mind he's just friends...whereas, friends don't kiss. Or, maybe he's just trying to take it slowly...since you haven't exactly been able to do anything other than talk and work together, it's not like it's really been that much time. If he is actually just the type of guy that doesn't want to kiss you, doesn't like kissing...and you do...I'm telling you, it'll become a problem. If kissing is important to you, when a guy doesn't want to kiss you, or he kisses badly, it's a tough thing to get past because it's hard to feel that special feeling if there's nothing there to give it to you.

K
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Registered: 10-12-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 2:35pm
I do not think it is that he does not enjoy kissing. It seems to me as if the relationship just may not be ready for that. Don't be so ready to indulge in kissing among other things. Be patience because good things come to those who wait. You guys have only been dating for two months which is not a very long time. Consider this...maybe he is more interested in getting to know you than he is your lips. Just flow with it and let it ride. Let him be the man and throw all of the first moves. He will innitiate the kiss as soon as he is ready.
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Registered: 03-30-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 3:47pm
It does seem like there is something more to it than him just not enjoying to kiss. Especially when he is interested in becoming sexually involved with me. I feel that I am

very patient and it takes me quite sometime before I even get to that point. I know that the time we have been talking and getting to know each other has been only two months, but like I said there hasn't been a man who I have every been involved with that didn't like to kiss. I am thinking that there is more to it than him not wanting to kiss.