Q: How long...

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Registered: 03-31-2004
Q: How long...
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Fri, 10-22-2004 - 1:13am
How long does it take normally for a guy to return a phone call? Like what does it mean if it takes them like a day to return a phone call? Is that one of the "He's just not into you" signs?
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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 10-22-2004 - 9:38am

michiru2004

I've come to realize its a "guy" thing. They are in a different "time warp" so to speak. They take their time when it comes to building a relationship/friendship with women.

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Registered: 10-20-2004
Fri, 10-22-2004 - 11:35am
Guys are people too, they have jobs, school, other obligations. Wait a few days and see if he calls. He might just be busy or maybe he doesn't want to seem overzelous so he's waiting a few days to call. Don't worry if he's the right guy he will call.
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Registered: 10-22-2004
Sat, 10-23-2004 - 7:59pm
If you read the book, "He's Just Not That Into You", one of the chapters specifically talk about men calling you. If a man is interested in you, he will not hesitate to call you. For an example, if you gave a guy your number on Saturday, if he's interested he should call you the next day. Men don't wait to long if there intersested and it's a clear sign there thinking of you. I met a guy on a Saturday night at a party and the moment he left the party, he called me twice the same night and called me first thing Sunday morning. He was clearly interested, but he turned out to be a "jerk" and I'm recovering from all the attention he gave me. But never wait to long.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sat, 10-23-2004 - 10:27pm
Okay, I've had guys call the same night they got my number, and frankly, it turned me way off. The next day is good, if they're not too needy about it. Two days is still acceptable. I've even allowed up to 5 if there is a major holiday or event within that timeframe that would space him out. After 5 or without a good excuse for the delay, I have no use for them. Let me call you right back with a day or more before the aforementioned call and no death or dismemberment involved also gets you the boot. I'm a bit strict I suppose, but it is very important to me that a man understand that my time is as valuable as his. It's also very important to me that a man be interested in me at least as much as I am interested in him. Gujys that run hot and cold on you or have the manners that god gave a concrete block will continue to behave that way as long as you know them. If he hasn't called then great -- he wasn't someone you want to be talking to anyway and has done you the favor of dumping himself.
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Registered: 03-31-2004
Sun, 10-24-2004 - 3:08am
Oh yeah, I understand if you haven't gone out with the guy yet. But in my case, the guy and I have been dating for 7 weeks and we talk on the phone 3-4 times a week. He is always the one who calls. It's just that I called him twice ever since we started going out. The first time, he called me right when he got my message and the second time, I called thursday but he didnt call me back till saturday so I'm just wondering what does that mean. Like really, I want to ask him "why did you take your time to return a simple phone call?!" but I guess I can't be too scandalous.. yet. :-P