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| Wed, 09-06-2006 - 11:35pm |
This guy I've been seeing (for approx 3.5 months) asked me to call him tonight after I was finished doing what I had to do.....he said, "if you feel like it." He was teasing, and I said, "ok, only if I feel like it." He said he might be in the area (of where I was) so that maybe he'd stop by.
Ok. With me?
So, I called him around 10:30 tonight when I finisehd. He didn't answer. I said, "hey, it's me...I'm done. I'll wait around for 5 mins, but if I don't hear from you, I'm going to head home. Talk to you later."
He called back (in 5-10 mins, can't remember). He apologized for missing my call. He asked me what I was doing and I said, "I was talking to people outside." Nothing more than that. He didn't say anything. So, I said, "well, I'm going to go home. I'm tired." He said he was tired, too. I said I'd talk to him tomorrow. He said ok.
Am I.....I don't know, overreacting? I'm premenstrual, so that could say something, but I'm feeling...eh, slighted...? Is is it me? Should I just get over it? My gut tells me yes, but I ask this board b/c you guys usually have good insight/advice.
That's all.

mskatharine...
Not that his situation is similar to your b/f's...but when Pianoguy is talking on the telephone to somebody else...ANY INCOMING MESSAGES are automatically intercepted by his answering machine!
So it's entirely possible that this is the reason you didn't get an immediate response from your b/f when you telephoned him? .
Pianoguy
I think it's reasonable to assume that by the time you were finished with your work, it was too late and he had become tired... 10:30 p.m. is pretty late for a date, especially on a work night. So I wouldn't worry about this incident at all. Hopefully, you will hear from him very soon with a suggestion about getting together over the weekend. Spur of the moment get-togethers are OK.. but I think planning a date in advance for a time when you're completely free is the best bet.
Good luck.
Are you serious?
Why do you feel slighted? what did he do to slight you? He called you back in five to ten minites and asked what you were doing. Then you said, "I'm going home because I'm tired." He said that he was tired also. Then you said that you would talk to him tomorrow.
If he didn't answer the phone right away, he might have been in the bathroom. He might not have heard the phone because he was busy doing something that had to be done.
At any rate, tell him that you are interested in him and want to date him.
I think you should definitely chalk this one up to PMS! Because, I read it three times and I have NO IDEA why you'd feel slighted?! lol
He asked what you were doing (which btw, lest not forget that he DID call you back promptly), you responded that you were talking to people outside and YOU said ""well, I'm going to go home. I'm tired." ... so, guess what? ;-) ... he took that at FACE VALUE and said he was tired, too.
Sorry, but I think you're responding more to what was NOT said << Nothing more than that. He didn't say anything. >> than to what WAS said ... probably because you EXPECTED him to suggest stopping by after your "talking to people outside" ... and when he didn't, rather than ASKING him if he was still in the area, you said "I'm tired" and led him to believe that you did not want to get together ... when in fact, if you DID want to get together or have him stop by, then ... by all means, SAY SO!
But, call me crazy ... if someone says to me "I'm going home, I'm tired" ... well, "crazy me" is going to take that at face value and infer that that person wants to go home and go to BED.
Sorry, I don't mean to be harsh ... but you have no reason to feel slighted ... you can't hold a guy responsible for not being able to read your mind or read your expectations. If you wanted to get together, you shouldnt' have said "I'm tired, I'm going home." He simply took that at face value, that's all.