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| Mon, 09-27-2004 - 11:37am |
I'm 8 years old than the guy that I am seeing. Even though we totally enjoy each other, and are in love, I have experienced things that he has not yet gone through. Children and marriage are very important to him. I feel bad that I don't get to experience these things with him.
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Would you let him go, so that he can find someone to experience these things with...?

If you do not want any more children and do not want to get married again and he has told you that he wants kids and marriage, then yes, I think you 2 have different goals and you should tell him what your intentions are and then he will have to decide if he wants to stay together or move on to another woman who wants marriage/kids.
If you are saying that you have had kids/marriage in your past but you are willing to do it again with your bf, then you should hold onto him (as long as you 2 get along, are in love, etc).
There are many people (men and women) who have never been married or had kids, and yet they marry someone who has been married before, or someone who has kids. It's pretty common nowadays since the divorce rate is so high.
I think it is your bf's decision if he wants to deal with your past. There is a small percentage of men and women who can't get past their partner's past (past lovers, marriages, or children). As long as your bf doesn't get jealous of your past, treats your kids right, and he is mature, then you shouldn't have any problems.
As far as the age difference. I wouldn't worry about it as long as you get along(like i said before).
I don't think he has a problem with my past, I think it is more me. I seem to think that I am jipping him out of the "new experience". I sometimes feel he can meet someone that is 25 and experience everything new with her.