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| Mon, 02-13-2006 - 11:20pm |
So let me ask you, Is this wrong? I left my husband 2 months ago and I find myself wanting a friend with bennys. Nothing emotional, no strings, no titles. Don't get me wrong, I don't need a bunch of them, just one. A part of me thinks that this is just a rebound thing I'm going through, but like I said, I'm not looking for a man. Just sex, taking all precautions, and certainly not (sex) right away. I'm not a slut or anything like that, I just have these urges. Anyway is this wrong? Rebound? Looking for any input. Thanks

thejaded_1...
Pianoguy thinks you need to ask yourself 2 questions:
1. Can I really stay 'detached' from anybody new? "SEX changes everything" (to use a quote from the movie: "Tootsie") and it's entirely possible you could start having feelings for somebody else?
2. Be careful in your choice when you get "your urges!" Sometimes...the most romantic man in the world can play a lot 'rougher' than you can imagine? It's also entirely possible that his feelings for you (beyond the bedroom) might accelerate? And that puts you in the position of either engaging in a serious relationship---or making a quick exit for the door!!!!
Pianoguy
There's nothing wrong with it. I've had 2 or 3 in my lifetime... as long as you are comfortable with that person and you discuss things like what do you do if you get pregnant? Also, make sure you use protection. Did you know that a man can have an STD for 10 years with no symptoms? STD's can be scary. But if you practice all the precautions, it can be fun if emotions are kept out of it. If you're not sure about it, there's always toys you can try. That was my next step if I didn't find a relationship, but I surprisingly did after 7 years of none after my divorce. Good luck.
Jag