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| Wed, 02-01-2006 - 8:22pm |
I just moved and I really don’t know anyone. There is this guy that I believe likes me. He keeps hinting at going out by he just really hasn’t asked yet. Anyways like I said I am new to the town I live at now and really don’t know anyone.
I am really not attracted to him AT ALL. However, he is a very nice and a sweet guy. With this in mind I think well may-be I will go out with him. Just because of the fact that I am new here and it would be nice to have someone to hang out with. Not so that I can say that I have a boyfriend. I could careless. I know if I tell him I think of him as a friend not as a boyfriend he will avoid me like the plague and I will have no one to hang out with.
See I am conflicted. I think to myself he really isn’t my type. I can’t tell you why he's not; its just that I know he is not my type. Also, I would know that the relationship would not go anywhere but he wouldn’t. I don't really care to date him but like I said I really don't have anyone else. To me this seems so cruel. Is it? I can’t figure out what I should do?

If you know he's not your type, I would not lead him on. Tell him straight... 'listen, I would love to make friends here since I'm new. I want you as my friend!' Let him have the choice after that otherwise to me, it's not fair.
Hope this helps.
Ofcourse, don't make it seem like a 'date'. You both could just hang out for coffee and a snack in the evening, or something shorter than an entire evening. But he hasn't asked you out directly either. Inanycase, yes, it is good to make things clear at the very beginning, if you are dead sure, but I say, don't be too hasty right now, since you don't really 'know' him and his intentions very well, right? Maybe he might be good with a friendship, you never know.