Question about expectations

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Registered: 05-12-2007
Question about expectations
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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 4:46pm
Can anyone give me an opinion about an issue...Realistically, how long can I expect a guy in his 30's to wait for sex????First date?Tenth date?Just want some honest opinions. Thanks for any help.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-12-2007 - 7:51pm
Expect nothing but be very clear and concise regarding your personal boundaries, wants and needs. You own that responsibility so don't shift that by trying to imply expectations onto another person that you barely know.
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Registered: 03-17-2006
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 10:39am

I'm dating a guy who is 31 and I'm 24. Long ago, I decided to wait for sex until I was truly in love. I told this guy that and asked that if it's an issue or problem for him, to be honest and let me know. He looked me in the eyes more than once and told me it's not a problem. He's been completely respectful of my wishes, and I'm loving it.

The fact that he's not pushy makes me want to be with him. The choice is mine and I will wait until I know I'm with the right person at the right time.

I honestly believe that if someone cares about you, they will respect your choice. I got the total impression that he is impressed by and has a greater respect for me because of my choice.

Best wishes!
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 3:52pm
It varies depending on the guy.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:09pm
It's not about how long can you expect him to wait?
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