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| Wed, 05-30-2007 - 8:45pm |
If you were dating someone and your SO decided that he or she wanted to date others or to take a break because they still need to sample others (just to be sure)....would you take them back once they got their fill? This is a relationship I'm talking about, not a fling or a bedbuddy (where coming and going are assumed) or anything casual.
Someone posed this question to me recently and I didn't know how to answer it because everyone's heart is different. For me, if a guy needed to go do that, I wouldn't make a fuss or stand in his way, but I wouldn't take him back. Reason being if he didn't dig me enough back then, he isn't going to dig me now and it would probably travel the same route again. A person like that should only have casual relationships as far as I am concerned, this way they can come and go as they please. For some people, an ex returning is like hitting the jackpot - not for me. But how can you tell someone that when they are suffering and miss the person? She would need to get suckerpunched again.

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Thanks to everyone for providing your insights. I agree with many of the posters about the reason for the break up or break as a determinant of reconcilation. If there is a valid reason (like moving due to a job) and both parties are still interested in each other then there is no reason to not get back together. Even if the person was thoughtless and was truely remorseful and addressed his actions to himself and understood why he did what he did and understands the impact on you, then I can understand wanting to reconnect.
But, from what I have seen and heard, alot of guys are just being fickle or *something* and getting the woman hooked and then pulling the rug out from under her with talk about, needing to date others, not really feeling "it" for her, and so on. I wouldn't feel compelled to take the guy back because, from my experiences with guys returning, it is usually because they haven't found anyone new yet and they want some attention, sex, something to do, and whatever else they can think up - and they all do return one day. I had one guy apologize and not even know why he was apologizing...so it was clear that he was not someone with whom I would get back together.
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