question?! is it wrong to ask

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Registered: 10-14-2005
question?! is it wrong to ask
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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 9:23am
If you have been dating a guy for over 2yrs is it wrong to ask a friend of theirs for relationship advice or to talk with them about things that are confusing you when your boyfriend is not around? I just want a mature friends advice that has been watching the relationship from the outside-through all its ups and downs. I can talk with my boyfriend about most anything but he is a reserved person.-is it wrong of me to put the friend in this position? even when he occasionally talks to me about his dating relationships? and if my boyfriend found out i was discussing things with his friend-would he have a right to be upset with me?
thanks!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:04pm

It will make your boyfriend's friend uncomfortable (divided loyalties) and probably won't make your boyfriend too happy either, especially since he's a reserved person.


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Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:07pm
It's best to talk to a completely uninvolved third party.
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Registered: 10-14-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 1:37pm
Thanks everyone for your advice! my boyfriend wants to move to another state in a couple of years and i dont think i want to -this was one of the things i wanted to talk to this guy friend about-but i guess its not appropriate to drag the friend in. I appreciate your advice! thanks!