Quick Starts

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Quick Starts
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 5:40pm

I went on a first date the other night with a man I was set up with.

We had spoken many times via IMs and I was thouroughly excited to meet him, yet nervous I would be disappointed. To my delight, I was impressed and I think he was impressed with me too. We had loads of chemistry and after dinner we, well - you know....

We have plans for the weekend but I have to ask, can this start still be ok or is everything doomed due to having sex to fast.

BACKGROUND: he has called me, emailed, and im'd since that day. We were NOT drunk and we are talking very openly. Its just that passion can be confusing sometimes and I know my goal is to find a person to actually be with. I think that is his goal too, but I thought I'd put this situation out there and see what people think.

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Registered: 07-28-2003
In reply to: isadimple
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 6:44pm
There's no answer to your question... only time will tell.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: isadimple
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 8:24pm

No, it's not necessarily doomed...but what tends to happen to me (and I see it on the boards all the time, too) is that when you have sex early on, you (the woman) become emotionally attached, and you suspend your good judgment. So, once you start to find out about the guy's bad points, you're more willing to overlook them than you would be if you weren't sleeping together yet. And then you find yourself in a not-great relationship that's hard to extricate yourself from, because you're too emotionally involved.

So, that's what I would be most concerned about, in your shoes...especially knowing you just got out of a not-great relationship.

Sheri