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| Thu, 04-15-2004 - 1:52pm |
I am just so baffled by guys. I have been dating this guy for a month now. Everything is going well. Lately though, he's been distant and cold. Just last night, he told me he wanted us to have more, take our relationship to the next level, as in being exclusive. Then this morning, he told me he thinks that things should just say the same. ???? Why is he acting like this? I have made it clear to him that I am ready and that I REALLY like him. I just feel like I am wasting my time because of his fickle actions. Any advice any one??

Really sorry, i know how this inconsistency in dating pulls your emotions.
First of all, men get close then pull away. This isn't different for any male. You just have to roll with it. But the fact that he said he wanted to be exclusive then said no the next day... well you shouldn't roll with it ...
If you think about it. Nothing you can really do except either decide if hes someone you want to be exclusive with if he cant make up his mind. Men can be indecisive , so can women. Just personality flaws. Do you wnat that?
If you are ok wtih that. Then let it be. Go out and do your thing. Make him want YOU. Let him see how happy you are without him. Meaning dont make any dates iwth him, let him make dates with you and initiate them from start/finish. Go make plans with friends, fill your life up w/ you. And if he by chance fits into your schedule, then go for it.
But you need to let him really think about it and give him what he wants. Casual dating thing w/ you. See how he likes it.
But do NOT go and pursue him, it'll scare him away.
good luck , i hope it works out. know anytihng that happens is the right way and there is someone better for you. just trust in yourself and fate.
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You are absolutely right. I was talking to a friend of mine and she mentioned some of the same things you did. I am about to graduate from college and I really shouldn't and don't want to deal with the stress. There are so many guys out there and I know maybe someone else will appreciate me. By the way, since my posting earlier he has called me twice and i didn't answer or return his calls. Its about time he sees how it feels to have your emotions played with ;) Thanks for your kindness and help :)
Rida