Really like him....too scared. :(

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Registered: 06-10-2004
Really like him....too scared. :(
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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:16am
I work with this guy and am smitten by him. He is in a diff. department so we rarely see each other. I barely see him for even 30 mins in a week.

But the thing is, when he comes up and approaches me I get nervous. Really nervous. I used to turn red, but I am slowly getting that under control. When he comes to talk it is usually about silly things, either that or because he "needs" something from my neck of the woods. Most of the time those things are silly things.

Anyways, so I am now getting better and I think he is nervous too. I am a very shy person around men I find attractive, and he is the only one that does this to me there. There has been a span of several months of us SLOWLY getting to know each other. He has now resorted to picking a nickname for me, and we are always smiling when talking.

So the other day he came up to me and we were talking. A guy co worker came and interrupted us and we all ended up going back to work. So later on I went up to the cutie and asked where we left off. This time he was the one who was nervous it seemed as his leg started moving up and down and suddenly he said his nose started running and he took off for the bathroom.

You see, when I first started getting to know him, every time he came to say hi about something, I did my avoidance technique and would chat for 5 seconds before I could not take the nervousness and would take off on him. Now I can see that happening with him but I am unsure.

Is moving your leg a sign of nervousness? Good nervousness? He does the approaching 95% of the time, and like I said I am not that nervous anymore. I can't tell what is going on in his head but I want to see if I can read his body language more.

Oh and he has my name programmed into my phone. This I have seen. He also questioned me about all the guys names in my phone book. But I can't get this guy to ask me out!

p.s. he says he does not have a gf for the record.

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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 9:22am
Wish I had some really sound advice for you. Only thing I can say is to keep talking to him as you are doing. Just remember he's a person too and try not to put him on too high of a pedestal. Just think of him as a regular guy and maybe your nervousness will go away.

That's all I can add.

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 12:19pm
Hmmm...this sounds frustrating.......I dont know WHAT to say......Maybe you could turn the conversation off work and more to "So...what are you up to this weekend?"
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Registered: 06-10-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 4:06pm
Thank you each for your responses. I think I am going to keep getting closer to him friendship wise (which has already progressed) and then slowly build up to getting together on the weekend sometime. I guess it's all I can do! ;)