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| Wed, 04-21-2004 - 4:02pm |
I have been dating a 36 years old guy since last Oct. We see each other once or twice a week. It goes slow, but smoothe. We had good time together most of the time. He is sweet and nice guy. We had weekend trip twice and we saty over night. However, lately we are not seeing each other that often. He always has something to do and rather not seeing me. I wonder if he is tired about our relationship? We are going to travel to Latin America for 4 days this weekend. This trip was booked three week ago, but we didn't see each other for more than a week. I wonder if we should move forward with our relationship or just wait for his move. It seems we stay at this stage for three month already. I am confused if we should stop the relationship or not. I like him a lot, but I am afriade if I should bring up any topic about us. As a matter fact, I try to aviod the topic. From bottom of my heart, I'd like to have serious relationship with him. What should I do in this trip? where does our relationship go? Any advice please!

Hello aprilagain, welcome to the board!
First, remember that this is just a three month relationship so far... In the very beginning there is an urgency, an intensity to be with each other that begins to wane as you get more comfortable with each other and return to a sense of normality and begin to see the daily responsibilities that you had forgone in the beginning.
At 36, this man has responsibilities (at least he certainly should have...) that he must attend to. By so doing it doesn't mean that you are any less important to him than before. It simply means that he has to prioritize his time and balance between responsibilities.
You have a trip coming up where you will be together for four days... trust me, if he was tired of the realtionship you wouldn't be going on that trip.
Relax, enjoy the time you do spend with him rather than agonizing over the time you don't. In time it will even out... he will gain a balance between work and play, between time away and time with you. You too may axcuire responsibilities and obligations that will fill your time as you grow in life and then you will have to balance those as well.
tg