Red Flag??

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Red Flag??
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Wed, 06-21-2006 - 6:59pm

Hi,

I started talking to this guy about 5 days back ... intitally exchanging 2 emails and now 3 phone calls. The first time we talked on phone, he said he has a friend who is visiting from India and he is going to meet her. He came back home late. It didn't bother me as we have never met, it was the first phone conversation and there's nothing wrong in meeting a friend especially when visiting from another country.

Today, we talked for the 3rd time and he said that he is going to India in a month or two and then he will be going to India during the month of December. Further, he said he likes to visit India as it's a lot of fun there.

I asked him what are the top 5 things he would do for fun. he said he liked to go out to parties with loud music and hang out with cool people. He enjoys doing everything at the spur of the moment. The first thing he would do would be to go to India.

Isn't this ridiculous / weird? Do you think this guy is another one of those who likes to make new friends (girls as friends) and then use them and is out to just look for fun? The wildest thought that came to my mind was him having an affair with this she-friend who is visiting from India ...

Any thoughts ... am I reading too much into all this?

Thanks.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
In reply to: sk3035
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 8:05pm
Why is it weird that he likes India? People like all kinds of things. I don't get the connection you're making between liking India and being a player.
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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: sk3035
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 8:59pm

Well, I normally hear that guys tell you about them in the very initial stages. So, I'm wondering if he's trying to tell me anything and in case there's a red flag to watch out for. I'm just being cautious since I never seem to have a relationship.

In the end of today's conversation, he said "you can call me whenever" - did he mean I can call him whenever I feel comfortable?

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Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: sk3035
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 10:57am
The red flags I see are that he likes to party, doesn't like to make plans (which could mean he doesn't like any sort of commitment). He sounds like a "free spirit" who likes to hang out with people who could get him towards his goals. A lot of my actor, musician and artist acquaintances are sort of the like that. Travelling on a moment's notice, unless you're very rich, could be a red flag in the financial dept. Of course, finances aren't as important unless, you are looking to "the one".

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