Regarding the post "should I call him or

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Registered: 08-27-2001
Regarding the post "should I call him or
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Sat, 06-19-2004 - 3:55am
not" Dated June 13th.

Today I had to go back to the company I worked for 2 weeks ago in order to pick up a check. On my way to the company I phone the guy and told him I was going to the company. First he never expected I call him, he was glad to hear my voice. Second he asked me who gave me his phone number, I told him he did the last day I worked there.

He told me then he will wait for me in order to see me because he wanted to see me, before leaving the company for the day.

So there I was at the company. In the recption he showed up. We greet with a kiss on the cheek. Then he told me he has missed me. He even ask the guard if what he said was true, he guard said yes. (In that moment the real receptionist was there over listening, very embarrasing for me). He told me he had to do some things in teh company but he had to leave soon the company he has to report to his boss at the branch office in the other city, but he wish to say good bye to me. Then I headed to the department where I was going to pick up my check. In that department I also worked for 1 month, so I stayed there more time than expected, I stayed chit chatting with the coworkers. When i left there, I ask the guard where was the guy. he told me he left.

I felt bad because I did not say good bye. So I call his cell phone but I only got his answering machine. I left him a message apologizing, explained the reasons why I could not see him when he left and then told him to call me back at my cell phone. The time passed and he did not call. Then again like 20 minutes later I called again and this time he did answer, but because there was a bad reception we could not speak to each other so I had to hang up or he had to hang up. I just heard him saying my name.

Well an hour passed and I again I call him, this time I got the answering machine. The message I left was: Is me again, call me".

This time he never called.

Now should I call him on Monday to apologize and saying Im sorry we could say good bye on Friday or should I call him today Saturday for the same reason?

Now that we broke the ice just a little bit more. Do you think I should ask him out or suggest to go out and grab some coffee? I said thta because the guy never were brave enough to do it while I was working at the company. He was shy, he never ask me out even if he flirted with me constantly and seem interested in me or should I continue to wait he makes the first move? The guy I dont know if he is shy before women or embarrased.

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 12:43pm
If you left a message telling him to call you-then it's his move. No more phone calls--guys hate when they think you are "bothering" them. If he wants to call then he will. If he doesn't call............you have your answer.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 1:15pm
You have called him and left him your cell phone number. Let him return the call. It sounds like you are doing all the calls.


It is up to him to return the phone call.

If you start calling this man all of the time he might get scared off.

Although it sounds like he might be interested.

Give him time.


I don't think that man is all that shy.

He seemed okay with you once you weren't working for the company he was.

Some men don't like dating women who work in the same company or such.

It isn't all that professional.

Good Luck!

I know it is hard, the waiting.

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Registered: 08-27-2001
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 2:59pm
As I said we really never talked to each other on the phone when I called him after he left the company to run his work errands, we had bad reception on the cell phones and he never called again. Also Im not sure that he really listen to my message in the cell phone answering machine or not.

He is not tye type of guy who likes to call, I think he likes to be pursued instead. Im figuring that out, he hasnt told me but for his attitudes Im coming to that conclusion.

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 12:22pm
Again, as I said before, the ball is in his court.

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