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|Thu, 08-01-2013 - 3:31pm|
I've been rejected after only going out with someone twice. The first time is when we met, and we had a fast connection. The 2nd time I said something during our meeting stating that maybe we weren't connecting; I said it because I didn't share his view on some things. At the end of the night he only said thank you and goodbye. I emailed him goodbye but then he suggested we go out again. Recently I had a conversation with him where I was not having a good day. I had mentioned my "troubles" to him before about living at home with parents as well as living far from the city center. Following arguments between family members that did not involve me I was having a bad day and while on the phone with him I did mention I was having a weird day; I blurted that I was getting impatient about things because I hadn't seen him in a few weeks despite our attempts at seeing one another. Just the day before we were not able to meet and I was calling to invite him out that night. He already had plans and he also mentioned something about having no expectations (which kind of hurt me actually). He said he would call back the next day and that he could make time for me. I said he could call me or let me know tomorrow how he felt about it. I am not sure if I conveyed this properly, because I was frustrated and also mentioned during the call maybe we should stop if we weren't going to be able to see one another but he said he wanted to keep in touch.
The next day I get an email from him outlining that he has enough stress with his job and what not and maybe he is sensitive but that we should not continue. He even mentioned something about my culture and how maybe it has something to do with it!!
Where did I go wrong? Did I deserve this? or was he being a jerk? (Following the second time we met he said he was sorry for what happened and had hope for us--that's when he invited me out again).
I felt so bad after this. I know I shouldn't have said a few things but was he justified or right in writing that? I was hoping things could work out. Should I try to salvage this??
I am looking forward to hearing back... p.s. I'm 35, he's 40.