Relationship needs help

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Relationship needs help
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 7:51pm
I'm having relationship problems. My boyfriends's friend is getting married and has asked my boyfriend to be in wedding. THe only problem is that the groom and bride has put my boyfriend and his ex girlfriend together to walk down the aisle. I'm having problems with this and don't know what to do. My boyfriend is saying that I'm being the bitch about the whole situation and that I need to get over it and forget about who his is walking with. What should I do? At the moment we are not talking to eachother and I have a feeling that our relationship is going to be ruined over this wedding. Help please!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 9:08am
star99 03...

You aren't gonna believe this, but Pianoguy was placed in a similar situation several years ago. An EX/GF and he were in the same bridal procession. Only difference was that Pianoguy was the best man and the EX was one of the bridesmaids so walking down the aisle together (during the recessional) wasn't an option.

But...if I were in your shoes...I'd stop acting like a baby and realize that this is a "one-time event!" Walking side-by-side with an EX means nothing! After 4 hours, the reception will be over and the b/f will be 'reconnected' with you.

If you don't want to attend the wedding and/or reception...I guess you can make an excuse! But doing this will put your b/f in a difficult position when it comes to explaining why you didn't want to come.

Just remember one thing...YOU are the woman in his life now...and if you truly want his love and devotion...you have to show him that you can provide support and understanding when he needs it!

Now go and pick up the phone...and tell him you'll be happy to attend the wedding with him with 'no strings attached!'

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 11:46am
while it was rude of the bride and groom to do this if they knew that that was his ex they are going to be together for five minutes while walking down the aisle i don't its worth ruining your relationship over.
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 12:01pm
It is not your place, it is his friends that are getting married, they choose who are in the wedding party and you are being immature.
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 12:03pm
It's not rude of them, they are ADULTS! and they have friends they want in the party.

I'll give you an example. My best friend several years ago asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, me and my then husband got her and her boyfriend together, he was asked to be the best man, since he and the boyfriend were best friends and since she had sisters I was asked to be a bridesmaid. Well during the prep time, my husband and I seperated, the worse thing was and hurt me worse then the divorce was that she cut me out of the wedding and never said a word, not because I couldn't be an adult and attend a wedding with my now exhusband but because her and her husband were too immature in thinking that people couldn't handle it and their day would be ruined.

I am an adult and I act like one, if you would rather ruin someones wedding day because an "ex" was asked to be in the wedding, then you have a lot of issues.


Edited 10/6/2004 12:11 pm ET ET by sweet_karma