A relationship with no title

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2007
A relationship with no title
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Thu, 11-22-2007 - 3:07pm


We meet three months ago, and have been dating since. We didn’t see each other that much in the beginning and we talked everyday, meet each others friends and brothers. He came to see me before leaving on vacation and I made dinner, got him a little gift and I got flowers. He surprised me when he got back and brought me flowers. I asked if he was seeing anyone else and he said, he was not, but didn’t want a relationship, wanted to be free and emphasised that there is no one else. I was surprised by that and it continued between us, I stared to feel used and I told him that I didn’t want to be a sexual object. He asked, what I wanted and which title, I couldn’t answer because I was shocked and surprised but confused and didn’t want him to give me something that he didn’t want.


We continued and had great dates, where he would hold me close and hold my had and even he cooked something and brought it for me. After a great date and breakfast the next morning. I text that afternoon and asked, am I your gf or not and he said, you are mine and I am yours. I said, no more games, yes or no and he said, there is no games it’s like before. I said I deserve better and it was great while it lasted, goodby and he said I know that to and I don’t’ want to hurt you goodby. A few days later I received a text asking me to call someone he knows because they needed my help and I was polite when I wrote back and called the person and offered my help. I don’t know what he is thinking right now and I miss him so much. I feel that I am doing the right thing but I feel that I was to forward and to much on a man. Does he miss me or have feelings. Will he call someday and change his mind? Will either one of us give in and what should I do if I run into him? We planned to have my b-day at the place we meet, should I still have it there? I want to contact him but I am scared to look stupid or week and what happens if everything was to go back to the way it was, it would hurt the second time around more. How do i handle everything?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 11-22-2007 - 7:18pm

1) "I feel that I am doing the right thing but I feel that I was to forward and to much on a man. Does he miss me or have feelings."


For some reason men in this day and age do not want to bestow the title "girlfriend" upon a woman.